Tablemanners餐桌礼仪.ppt

Table Manners,The spirit of courteous conductat a western dinner table,What is a table manner?,Table manners are about a certain section of etiquette.This topic includes and describes everything of etiquette that is related to the proper,polite,courteous conduct at a dinner table in a given cultural environment.In this document we will talk about table manners by the western culture.,What is etiquette?,Etiquette is the standard of courteous conduct in societyand among individuals from a group or profession.,A history of etiquette?,Etiquette is a French word meaning label or ticket.In France,tiquette began to be used to describe appropriate conduct.Finally,by the 18th century,those who spoke English embraced the word itself by the French meaning.,A history of etiquette?,Since forever,etiquette or the norm of proper conduct is formed by a certain society within a certain cultural environment.,Consequences of having etiquette,During history,people who were able to behave accordingly and follow the rules,could be a part of a selected company within their society.These people came normally from aristocratic,noble circles.,Consequences of having etiquette,People who couldnt follow the rules of etiquette came usually from poorer classes.Nobody taught them how to behave in certain situations,nor they needed this knowledge really;for example they were not invited to participate in noble events.Therefore in their course of life these type of knowledge wasnt important at all.,Etiquette in the modern world,Although we dont live in the feudalism anymore,the norms of noble conduct is inherited even to our days.All etiquettes are generally acknowledged as something humanly valuable.Following the etiquette is still very important to people in aristocratic or also in business circles to keep their status quo.Otherwise,by their inproper behavior,they would be ostracized from the given community.,Etiquette in the modern world,Following the norms of etiquettes of a given society can be important for all,who wants to conduct herself or himself courteously,because elegance and noble behavior is simply parts of their human values.,So why do we need to learn etiquette?,Since most people in aristocratic circles know and accept etiquette,it is our interest to be able to adjust to the norm.If we cant behave in accordance to the certain event,we close ourselves out from the given community,and maybe our personal or buisness goals cant be realized.In worst case we make ourselves ridiculous by doing something very inpolite in a certain situation.,And why do we need a table etiquette?,The knowledge of how to behave properly,corteously at a dining table in a certain cultural environment gives us self-confidence,because we already know,how to conduct ourselves in a well-situated company.,Formal table setting,In an elegant formal event,a dining table is full of several utensils.For a self-confident participation in the dinner,we need to learn the purpose of each utensil.,Informal table settings,There are events where courteous conduct is also a requirement,however the occasion is less formal.On the informal dinner table we find less utensils,but of course,knowing the purpose of those is also a must.,Seating etiquette,Being confident of where to sit when everything is set and its time for dinner is some of the basics of table manners.It is very inpolite,if we have a seat on a chair which is designated to another participant of the dinner.Especially if we are talking about a host or a special guest.,Napkin etiquette,s,Napkin etiquette,In dining etiquette there are several rules how to handle the napkin from the beginning of the meal to the end of it.,Napkin etiquette,Placing the napkin in your lapPlace the napkin in your lap immediately upon seating.If there is a host or hostess,wait for him or her to take their napkin off the table and place it in his or her lap.,Napkin etiquette,Unfolding the napkinUnfold your napkin in one smooth motion without snapping or shaking it open.The size determines how you unfold a napkin in your lap.Large napkins are unfolded halfway.Smaller napkins are unfolded completely and cover the lap fully.,Napkin etiquette,Dont tuck the napkinDont tuck a napkin into your collar,between the buttons of your shirt,or in your belt.,Napkin etiquette,Using the napkinUse your napkin frequently during the meal to blot or pat,not wipe your lips.Blot your lips before taking a drink of your beverage.,Napkin etiquette,Napkin ringsIf a napkin ring is present,after removing your napkin,place the ring to the top-left of the setting.At the end of the meal,grasp the napkin in the center,pull it through the ring,and lay it on the table with the point facing the center of the table.,Napkin etiquette,Temporarily leaving the tableWhen leaving the table temporarily,put your napkin on your chair.If the chair is upholstered,place the napkin soiled side up.,Napkin etiquette,Placing the napkin at the end of the mealThe napkin is loosely folded at the end of the meal.If a plate is in the center of your place setting,when leaving the table lay the napkin to the left of the plate.If the center of your place setting is empty,the napkin is laid in the middle of the place setting.Leave your napkin in loose folds that keep soiled parts hidden.,Handling utensils,There are numerous ways we can use a fork or a knife,but by table etiquette,not all of them are correct.In this document we are introducing the so-called Continental style,because this is the most common utensil-handling style in the western world.,Handling utensils,Hold your knife in your right hand,an inch or two above the plate.Use your fork to spear and lift food to your mouth.,Handling utensils,The outside-in ruleIn most situations,following the outside-in rule will tell us which knife,fork,or spoon to use at the dinner table.By this rule,use utensils on the outside first and work your way inward with each new course that is served.,Handling utensils,Eating steakDont smother steak with steak sauce,especially when dining in a good restaurant.If you use a sauce,pour a small pool next to the steak and dip each forkful of meat before eating.,Handling utensils,Eating grilled meatsAt an informal barbecue,hamburgers,hot dogs,ribs,and pieces of chicken are most enjoyed when eaten with the fingers.However,certain kinds of meat are never eaten with our fingers.Sausages without buns are eaten with a knife and fork,as are fish,and steak.,Handling utensils,The way you leave your utensils on your plate can send several messages to the server.Sending the right messages by your silverware is not only logic,but of course,part of the etiquette.,Beverages etiquette,Our beverages etiquette or drinking etiquette tells us how to drink courteously at a western dining table.,Beverages etiquette,As we saw in the Table settings chapter,at a formal western table we meet several glasses.To avoid confusion,lets get familiar with their shape and purpose.,Beverages etiquette,Three basic rulesTake a drink only when you have no food in your mouth.Sip instead of gulping.If youre a woman,dont wear so much lipstick that your drinking glass will become smudged.,Beverages etiquette,Drinking water and iceAvoid the urge to gulp water at the table,no matter how thirsty you are.When drinking a beverage that contains ice cubes or crushed ice,dont crunch the ice in your mouth.,Beverages etiquette,Drinking coffee and teaDont leave your spoon in the coffee cup or teacup or mug;place it on the saucer or a plate.Dont take ice from your water to cool a hot drink.Dont dunk doughnuts,biscotti,or anything else in your coffee unless youre at an ultracasual place where dunking is the norm.,Beverages etiquette,A fresh-brewed loose leaf tea tastes best.A second pot of hot water is used to dilute oversteeped tea and is poured directly into the cup.Infusing tea bags,put two or three bags in a pot of hot water and pour the tea when it has steeped.,Beverages etiquette,What to do with empty packets of sugar and individual containers of cream?Crumple them and place them on the edge of your saucer or butter plate.,Wine tasting etiquette,Once it is poured into the proper glass,its time to evaluate and enjoy the wine.Knowing how to taste wine by the etiquette,testifies we are proficient in western culture.Evaluating wine involves four basic steps looking,swirling,smelling,and tasting.,Toasting etiquette,It is great if we have something to say that can kindly touch all the participants of the event.However,if we do it different ways the etiquette describes it should be done,we can embarrass ourselves,and also,we wont get the desired impression,diverting the attention by our inproper conduct.,Toasting etiquette,The proper way of toasting can be summarized in six points.Make sure all glasses are filled before toasting.The glasses dont have to hold alcohol;non-dinkers may toast with water,juice,or a soft drink.,Toasting etiquette,Get the crowds attention by standing and raising your glass,not by banging on your glass.Traditionally,the first toast is offered by the host as a welcome to guests.,Toasting etiquette,When toasted,the toastee does not stand,nor does she/he drink to herself/himself.Make sure you keep your toast short and on point.,Thank you all for participatingin CYEAs Table Manners activity!,