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何谓“妒”？妒的本意是争色，即女人嫉妒别人比自己美貌。后来，“妒”的概念被引申扩大到因为别人好而忌恨。便有妒色、妒爱、妒功、妒财、妒势、妒能等等，不一而足。因为妒，就有“枪打出头鸟，网捉水上鱼”；因为妒，就有“木秀于林，风必摧之”；因为妒，就有隋炀帝“看你还能写空梁落燕泥”的丑恶嘴脸；因为妒，就有“我办不到，你也甭想办到”的泄愤之辞古往今来，妒事何其多。妒是一种心病，是一种“怨人好，望人坏”的被扭曲的病态心理。说它是一种心病，是因为妒是嫉妒者主观自生的一个大肿瘤，而非外界事物客观所致；说它是被扭曲的病态心理，是因为妒往往是因羡而生，是一种被扭曲了的不正常的羡慕之情。心病也好，被扭曲的病态心理也好，这都表明妒是非常有害的一种情感。妒意浅的，心不平，气不顺，察理不尽，损性伤情；妒意深的，妒盈而外溢溢于言者，便是诽谤、攻讦、打击、劳心累神不说，还要伤害同志感情，恶化人际关系；溢于行者，便是使绊脚绳，企图拉人于马下，其后果更难言状。庞涓、孙膑本是同学，庞涓因孙膑才过于己而妒意大发，便设法陷害，弄残孙的双脚，其妒可谓恶之甚矣！其果若何呢？还不是以害人始而以害己告终，贻笑天下，可卑可耻。相传晋代刘伯玉的太太段氏就是一个出奇的妒妇。一次，刘为曹植洛神赋中洛水女神洛嫔所迷，说“娶妇如此，无憾矣”。段氏妒性大发，说那洛神“凌波”有什么了不起，我也可投水呢。于是，她投水而去，便再也没有返回。真是妒得愚蠢，愚蠢得可笑而又可怜。妒害确实不小，那么，怎样才能不妒呢？面对他人的才能、好处、成绩，如果我们有度量，那么，我们就能抱持一种赞许、欣赏之情。如果我们能看到成功者、幸福者身后那一串艰难甚至充满痛苦的足迹，如果我们能像欧阳修一样乐游人之乐、乐百姓之乐，有一种与人同乐的博大胸怀，那么，我们又何愁无“度”呢？这样，妒就失去了滋生的土壤，我们也就与妒无缘了。概言之，有度方能不妒。度者，度量也，即能容人之量。度，是一种宽容的胸怀。有度，乃能有容，对于别人的财、色、势、功都能容纳于心。容纳是一种美德，古人就有“有容德乃大”的说法。在生活中，我们不仅要善于取人之长，还要学会容人之短，容人之言。如果我们连别人比自己好都容忍不下而满怀嫉妒之心，那么我们还能容纳别人的短处和微辞吗?还谈得上有德吗？有度，对于他人的功劳、财富、学识等名利就能坦然处之而不妒，而视之为其辛劳所得。设若心生羡慕而不忌恨，且有“退而结网”之心，这就达到了一种恰适之境。有度，有容，才可能有所成就。如果一味怨恨别人胜过自己，斤斤计较于名利，那么，这样的人的智慧也就所剩无几了，就很难再做出对人类有益的大事业来。古人说得好：“海纳百川，有容乃大。”如果我们努力提高自己的修养学识，不断扩大自己涵容万物的胸怀，在自己的岗位或领域里竭诚尽智，何愁不能做出令人欣羡的成绩？如果我们能涵容别人的优越之处，涵容人世不尽如意的各方各面，涵容人类永无止境的知识智慧，真正做到大度能容，容天下难容之事，想那“妒”怕是想要抬头也难了。.有度方能不妒责任编辑：飞雪 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谁都知道，80年代末，中国音乐界出了个崔健。他以一首后来几乎家喻户晓的垂史之作一无所有而一炮打响，在中国音乐史上树起了一块划时代的里程碑。再加上后来的宽容、新长征路上的摇滚、一块红布等摇滚乐的推出，更使他窜红海内外，当之无愧地成为中国摇滚歌王和开山鼻祖。然而，并非谁都知道，崔健还有着出色的口才。机构的记者便把崔健围了个水泄不通。“崔健，你怎么会想起为亚运会举行集资义演呢？”首先便是一个不太客气的问题。它包含着“你是否想借义演之名谋利？”“你是否想借亚运会扬名?”等多层不太友好的含义，说白了就是问崔健义演的动机是什么。然而，崔健是有头脑的，更是机智的。他稍停片刻，答道：“亚运会就像一个大的机会，通过这个机会，我们可以从各国的体育和文化交流中获取点新鲜的东西。我作为一个中国公民，非常希望这次亚运会能顺利进行，以便能给中国人民提供这么个机会。同时，我也想通过这次巡回演出的机会，让更多的人了解摇滚乐，从而推动摇滚乐在中国的发展。”在这个漂亮的回答中，崔健巧妙地表达了两层意思：一、他是非常支持中国举办亚运会的。因而作为一名中国公民，为亚运会义演理所当然。二、亚运会是一次机会，既然“我们可以从各国的体育和文化交流中获取点新鲜的东西”，那么“我”也要抓住这个机会，“推动摇滚乐在中国的发展”，让各国人也了解中国的摇滚乐。可谓顺理成章，无可挑剔。但是当即便有位记者提出了一个更富挑衅性的问题：“崔健，我听有人说，如果纯粹是你自己的演出，他们即使花一百元也看。但是如果你是为亚运会义演，那么即便票价一毛钱他们也不看，对此，你有何看法？”这显然是听完崔健的回答后从问题的反面提出的又一个更为棘手的问题。它实际上告诉崔健有些人不愿意看着他为了一种社会义务而演出，他们热爱崔健的摇滚乐，也甘心掏钱去欣赏，但是一旦这些钱将不给崔健，而是落入别人的腰包时，他们却是一毛钱也不愿出。这实际上反映了当时社会上存在着的某种情绪。然而，崔健深知，这样致命性的问题，在当时这个有着几十名中外记者的新闻发布会上，是来不得半点含糊和“用词不当”的，否则后果将不堪设想，因为这涉及政治问题。“我认为，政治问题实际上只是文化当中的一部分。我搞摇滚乐主要是想解决文化问题，这是不矛盾的。文化问题解决了，政治问题也就自然会得到解决。而且摇滚乐的精神本身就是一种文化。我认为中国的主要问题是文化问题，只要文化问题得到解决，其他均好办。”谁也无法否认这个回答。我们不得不承认崔健的口才。首先，以“我认为”开头，保持个人意见。接着把政治归入一种文化。阐明摇滚乐与政治不矛盾。他只是想解决一种文化问题，而对于政治他不想介入。实际上，就这问题本身而言，崔健的回答是抽象而又笼统的，而且还几次“偷换”“文化问题”的概念，避实就虚、巧妙应答，从而化险为夷。接着，记者开始把崔健往死里逼：“崔健，有人指责你的一无所有是资产阶级自由化的表现，对此你怎么认为？”问题一出，全场哗然。因为在当时，全国上下正是大反资产阶级自由化的时候，而崔健的一无所有也确实曾遭到过某些官方人士的反对。我们且来看看崔健是如何死里逃生的：“我父亲是共产党员，我母亲年轻时是共青团员，而我又是从小在社会主义的环境中长大的。所以我不可能是什么资产阶级，要说追求自由的愿望是有的，这没错，自由向来是人类社会的终极目的之一。”谁听了这个回答都会为之拍案叫绝。可以说，这是崔健所有答记者问中答得最精彩、最绝妙的一个。妙就妙在它成功地运用了“诡辩”。我们回过头来看记者的提问：“崔健，有人曾指责你的一无所有是资产阶级自由化的表现，对此你怎么认为？”显然，这个提问的核心在于“资产阶级自由化”。而崔健也正是抓住了这个中心词，并采用“偷换概念”的“诡辩手法”把它一分为二：“资产阶级”和“追求自由”。这样，原来一个满是毒刺的问题也就变圆滑了。他首先否认资产阶级，而且有理有据，让人无懈可击，接着说“追求自由的愿望是有的”，这不但从根本上否认了某些人的指责，也巧妙地回答了记者的提问，还宣扬了自己的观点，即他的摇滚乐所要表现的那种追求自由、奋斗不息的精神。崔健的答记者问还有许多。管中窥豹，可见一斑。透过这一事例的赏析，我们不也可以看出崔健答记者问的严谨、机智、敏锐、巧妙吗？.崔健答记者问例析责任编辑：飞雪 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·haveonesheartseton一心想要Oncehehadhisheartsetonsomething,hellacceptnoturning-back.·onesheartinonesmouth吓得要命MyheartwasinmymouthwhenIheartsomeonetappingonmywindowonerainingnight.haveonesheartinonesmouth;withonesheartinonesmouth·nothavethehearttodosomething不忍心去做Howcanyouhavethehearttokillmypet?·takesomethingtoheart往心里去/认真接受意见等Tomdecidedtotakehisfatherswordstoheartandwashhishandsoffsmoking.·beintheseventhheaven高心极了MarywasinseventhheavenwhenshefinallycametoParis,thecenteroffashion.·moveheavenandearth想尽一切办法Believeme.Ipromisetomoveheavenandearthtohelpyou.·coolonesheels等的双脚发凉，久等Letsmeetatthegalleryat7oclock.Comeat7sharp.Dontmakemecoolmyheels.·taketoonesheels逃走Thenaughtyboytooktohisheelsafterheshouldtrick-or-treat.·shootfromthehip信口开河DonttakeJayswordstoheart.Heshouldnthaveshotfromthehip.·byhookorbycrook千方百计得，不择手段得Herosetothatpositionbyhookorbycrook.·blowhotandcold出尔反尔，喜怒无常Doyouthinkhellsupportyou?Heisthetypewhoblowshotandcold.·makeithotfor刁难某人Outsectionmanagerisawoman.Ourgeneralmanageralwayslooksdownuponherandmakeseverythinghotforher.·havethelotsforsomeone迷恋某人Youhavetostopher.Shehasthelotsforamarriedman.·bringdownthehouse博得满堂喝彩Thefirst-prizewinnerofthespeechcontesthasbroughtdownthehouseforseveraltimes.·beoverthehump已度过难关TheAsianfinancialcriseshasalmostparalyzedAsianeconomy.Butweareoverthehumpnow.·haveahunchthat预感到Ihaveahunchthatthebearmarketwillbeoversoon.·behunky-dory挺不错的A:Howdoyoulikethefoodhere?B:Hunky-dory.·skateonthinice如履薄冰，冒风险Weareskatingonthiniceifwecontinuekillingwildanimals.·toywiththeideaof心里盘算要Shestoyingwithintheideaofmarringaforeigner.·noifs,andsandbuts不要找任何的理由和借口A:YouknowIcouldhavedoneitwell,butB:Noifs,andsandbuts.Tellmeifyouwanttosaveyourjob.·givesomeoneaninchandhelltakeamile得寸进尺Givemyroommateaninchandhelltakeamile.Lasttime,Iofferedhimsomecandies.Today,heaskedforanice-cream.·havemanyironsinthefire同时有很多要紧的事要做Althoughhewasoutofjob,hestillwrotetohisparentssayinghehadmanyironsinthefire.·beinajam陷入困境getinajamYouvegottohelpme.Iminajam.Maycarrefusedtoworkonmywaytooffice.·jaywalk横穿马路Itisdangeroustojaywalk.·inajiffy不大一会儿=inamoment,rightaway.atonceIllbewithyouinajiffy.·have(acaseof)thejitters忐忑不安Thenewteacherhadacaseofjitterswhenhefirststoodinfrontoftheclass.·keepupwiththeJoneses与别人比阔，与别人攀比HelikeskeepingupwiththeJoneses.·getakickoutofdoingsomething从得到很大的乐趣Hegetsakickputofracing.·takekindlytosomething/someone愿意接受Dontyoufeelthatpeopleinthelabdonttakekindlytoanosyreporter?·killsomeonewithkindness好得让人受不了TheoldladyalmostkilledmewithkindnesswhenIlivedatherhome.·paradeonesknowledge买弄学问Heisawell-learnedman,bitheneverparadeshisknowledge.·beatlarge逍遥法外（也可以形容动物不受约束）Themurdererwasstillatlarge.Thevictimsparentswasdeterminedtofindenoughevidencetosuehimtocourt.·restononeslaurels故步自封，吃老本Youaresuretobelaggedbehindifyourestonyourlaurels.·turnoveranewleaf洗心革面Thejuveniledelinquentpromisedthathewouldturnoveranewleafifhecouldbegivenlenientpunishment.·haveahollowleg（喝酒）海量Thebestmanhasahollowleg.Hedrinksalotinsteadofthebridegroom.·pullsomeonesleg开某人的玩笑Nevereverpullhisleg.Heisamanwithoutasenseofhumor.Hetakeseverythingseriously.·keepsomeoneatarmslength与某人保持距离Mybossismyuncle.Inordertoavoidunnecessarymisunderstanding,Idbetterkeephimatarmslengthincompany.·letsomeonedown使某人失望Joereallyletmedownbyhavingbrokenhispromisesforseveraltimes.·cantforthelifeofone怎么也不行IthoughtIcouldrecitemyspeechbackwards,butwhenIstoodinfrontoftheaudience,Icouldntforthelifeofmerememberwhattosay.·aironeslineninpublic家丑外扬Thewifewasoftenbeatenbyherhusband,butshenevertoldothers.Shedidntwanttoairherlineninpublic.·keepastiffupperlip意志坚定，坚强不屈Onefailuremeansnothing.Youvegottokeepastiffupperlip.·beatloggerheadswith互不相让Thetwopartieswereatloggerheadswitheachotheroverthenewtaxpolicy.·abornloser一事无成者Nobodyisabornloser.Allyouneedisperseverance.·louseupsomething把某事搞得一团糟Heletthecatoutofthebag,whichlousedupthewholedeal.·notdoforloveormoney死也不会Stoptrying.Iwontbetraymyfriendforloveormoney.·feelalumpinonesthroat心里感到很难受Ifeltalumpinmythroatonhearingherstoryoffightingwiththedeadlydisease.·makedowith用凑合Wearetootiredtocook.Wecanmakedowithtwobagsofinstantnoodles.·themaninthestreet普通的人，老百姓Theinterviewwiththemaninthestreetshowsthat90%ofthemaresatisfiedwiththeTVfrograms.·beonesownman不受他人支配，自己管自己Ourmonitorisnoteasytocopewith.Heismuchhisownman.·stealamarchonsomeone抢在他人前面，暗渡陈仓Westoleamarchonourrivalsbyreducing5%ofourpriceandgotbackourmarket.meatanddrink精神寄托Tosomeoldpeople,raisingpetsistheirmeatanddrink.·beatthemercyof受支配Whenyougetthiskindofdisease,yourlifeisatthemercyofGod.·blowsomeonesmind把某人搞得晕晕乎乎Readershadratherhighopinionofhisnewbook,whichblewhismind.·haveagoodmindtodosomething很想去干某事WhenIseeyoungandrobustmenelbowtheirwayontothebus,Ihaveagoodmindtosmackthem.·haveaone-trackmind死脑筋，一根筋Markhasaone-trackmind.Allhecaresisearningmoney.·mindonesownaffairs少管闲事Youarenothingbutanoldgossip!Cantyouonlymindyourownaffair?·weighonsomeonesmind心事重重Thefailureofsigningthecontracthasbeenweighingonhismind.Hecouldntsleepatnight.·beoftwominds拿不定主意Jillwasoftwomindsaswhethertospendthemoneyonbooksoronclothes.·havemoneytoburn有花不完的钱Thenewrichhasmoneytoburn.·onceinabluemoon千载难逢Ourbossisamiser.Hegivesusatreatonlyonceinabluemoon.182241·bedowninthemouth垂头丧气Sandrawasdowninthemouthbecauseshedidntmaketheappointment.·keepmumaboutsomething对某事保持沉默Thehighofficialkeptmumabouthisscandal.·facethemusic承担责任，甘受责备Youarecaughtstealing.Youhavetofacethemusic.·hitthenailonthehead说到点子上IliketodiscusswithHelen.Shealwayshitsthenailonthehead.·callsomeonenames辱骂某人Theneighborskeepdroppinglitterinfrontofherdoor.Shecouldntbearitanymoreandcallthemnames.·beneckandneck不分上下Thetwoworkshopsareneckandneckinmonthlyoutput.·getupthenerveto鼓起勇气去Thepatientgotupthenervetoaskthedoctorhowlonghecouldliveintheworld.·getonsomeonesnerves使某人心烦Thereisanairportinthevicinity.Thenoisegetsonmynerves.·anobody无名小辈Heissomebodyinthesmalltown,butheisanobodyinthecapitalcity.·leadsomeonearoundbythenose牵着别人的鼻子走Allnationsshouldexercisetheirownjudgment.Theyshouldntbeledaroundbysomebigcountries.·pokeonesnoseintosomething乱打听别人的私事Ihatethosejournalistswhopoketheirnoseintopeoplesprivatelife.·beanotchabovesomeone略胜一筹Instudy,weareneckandneck;butinsports,heisanotchaboveme.·situpandtakenoticeofsomething/someone对刮目相看Heusedtoknownothingaboutchemistry.Nowhetalkslikeachemist,Ihavetositupandtakenoticeofhim·havesomeonesnumber知道某人的底细Dontwasteyourtongueswithhim.Ivegothisnumber.Whatheistryingtodonowistosetatrapandletusjumpintoit.·bequicktotakeoffense特别爱生气Idontthinkheisaqualityleader.Heistooquicktotakeoffense.·haveonetoomany喝多了Thebridegroomhadonetoomanyattheweddingceremonyandwasshootingcats.·beontheoutswithsomeone与失和Forsomereason,thetwocountrieshavebeenonoutsforalongtime.·apainintheneck使人讨厌的事WorkingforVIPswasanhonorforme,butnowithasbecomeapainintheneck.Idontknowhowtobalancetherelationships.·greasesomeonespalm贿赂，给某人好处ItisreportedthatSydneyhasgreasedthepalmsofsomeonemembersofIOCfortherighttohold2000OlympicGames.·getpeanuts微不足道的钱Hegetspaidpeanutsalthoughheoftenworksextrahours.·castpearlsbeforeswine对牛弹琴，明珠暗投Mybossisanidiot.Workingforhimisjustlikecastingpearlsbeforeswine.·feellikeasquarepeginaroundhole感到格格不入，不适合Aftergraduation,Iremainedasateacherincollege.Wheneverourformerclassmateshaveaget-together,Ialwaysfeellikeasquarepeginaroundhole.Alltheytalkaboutarewaystomakemoney,expensivehotels,luxuriousentertainment,thingsIhavenoexperiencestosharewiththem.·pinchpennies节俭Thoughheisatycoon,hepinchespenniesindailylife.·robPetertopayPaul拆东墙，补西墙Youborrowmoneyfrommetopaythebankloan.ItislikerobbingPetertopayPaul.·benopicnic不是件轻松的事Tolearnoneforeignlanguageispossible.Buttobeabilingualisnopicnic.·sugarthepill给人一点甜头安慰一下Soniadidntwanttoworkextrahoursquiteoften,butthemanagersugaredthepillbypromisingheratripabroadattheendoftheyear.·beonpinsandneedles坐立不安Heisaverymodestman.Whenotherspraisehim,hefeelonpinsandneedles.·putthatinyourpipeandsmokeit你好好考虑考虑吧此句常用于祈使句Donttakeitoutonme.Itishewhomakesyoulosesomuchmoney.Putitinyourpipeandsmokeit!·playuptosomeone拍某人的马屁Theyoungactressplayeduptothedirector,hopingtogetaroleintheTVseries.·taketheplunge踌躇一段时间后断然决定去干Thecommanderfinallytooktheplungeandlaunchedthefinalattack.·playpossum装糊涂，装傻Heoftenquarrelswithhiswife.Whenhecomestomeforadvice,Icandonothingbutplaypossum.·dropsomethinglikeahotpotato赶紧抛弃，放弃Hehasbeendreamingofowninghisowncar.Butwhenheknewacarwouldcosttenyearsofhissalary,hedroptheidealikeahotpotato.·singsomeonespraises颂扬某人Thelawyerisquitesuccessful.Hisclientssinghispraisestoothers.·bepastprayingfor不可救药WhenIsentmycattothevet,hesaidthatitwaspastprayingfor.·besittingpretty享受安乐生活Ourcompanysurvivedtheeconomiccrisisandnowwearesittingpretty.·pocketonespride放下架子Thelaid-offworkersfromthestate-ownedenterprisesshouldpockettheirprideandseekforre-employment.·putsomeoneupto唆使某人去Howdareyoutohavelodgedacomplaintagainstmewiththedirector?Whoputyouuptoit?·popthequestion求婚Canyoutellmehowyoupoppedthequestiontoyourwife?MaybeIcanlearnsomethingfromyou.·callitquits作罢MaryandTomhadbeeninloveforseveralyears.Butthesedays,theybegantorealizethattheyhadverylittleincommon.Theydecidedtocallitquits.·chewtherag闲聊chewtherag也有争吵的意思Iftheyhavetime,thesewivesarealwayssittingtogetherandchewingtherag.·flyintoarage大发雷霆Theoldfatherflewintoaragewhenhisdaughterdidntobeyhiswill.·breakrankswithsomeone与分道扬镳反义词为：closerankswithsomeonePeoplewithinonepartygraduallyhadconflictsonsomepoliticalissues.Someofthemdecidedtobreakrankswithothersandsetupanewparty.·smellarat察觉可疑Heisawell-knownmiser.Ismellaratwhenheinvitesmetohishomefordinner.Iwaswonderingifheisaskingfavorsofme.·beatahastyretreat急忙撤退Thehoodlumwasabouttodullytheladywhenhesawapatrolmancomingtowardsthem.Hebeatahastyretreat.·takesomeoneforaride欺骗某人，玩弄某人的感情Theyweretakingusforaride.Iturnedoutthattheticketstheysolduswithlowpricewereinvalid.·ripsomeoneoff敲某人竹杠Thelocalvillainripsusoffbycollecting100yuanforprotectionchargeeverymonth.·beontherocks陷入困境，完蛋ThefoameconomywasstruckbytheAsianfinancialcrisis.Japanseconomywasontherocks.·rubitin哪壶不开提哪壶WouldyoupleasetalkinChinese?YouknowImaprettybadEnglishspeaker.Youdonthavetorubitin.·givesomeonetherunaround敷衍搪塞Mywashingmachinebrokedown,WhenIwenttotherepairshop,theygavemetherunaround.·beinarut千篇一律，一筹莫展Hislifeisinarut.Office,library,andhomearethethreeplaceshegoeseveryday.Itistimehehadaholidayforachange.·playitsafe小心谨慎Ourcarworksverywell.Buttoplayitsafe,wewillbringasparetire.·safeandsound安全无事Hecamebackfromthebattlefieldsafeandsound.·thesaltoftheearth好心肠的人，没有坏心眼的人Thetaxidriverwhosavedthedrowningboyfromtheriveristhesaltoftheearth.·takesomethingwithagrainofsalt听话打折扣，不能轻信Heisabraggart.Takehiswordswithagrainofsalt.·tipthescales扭转局势Intheboxingring,thetwosideswereevenlymatched.Buttheshortbreakseemedtotipthescalesinfavoroftheboxerinred.·throwsomeoneoffthescent转移某人的视线Themurderwrotealastletterforthevictimandleftitinthesite,hopingtothrowthepoliceoffthescent.·startfromscratch从零开始，白手起家Therearesomanyspellingmistakes.Ihavetowriteitagainfromscratch.·talksenseintosomeone开导某人Ivetiredtotalksenseintohim,buthestillchosetoworkinthecountryside.·anopensesame法宝，秘诀，关键HavingconnectionswithVIPsisnotanopensesametosuccess.·thelionsshare最大的一份，绝大多数Hedesignedthemostimportantpartofthemachine.Sohedeservesthelionsshareoftheaward.疯狂口语表示法500例二责任编辑：飞雪 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