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如果你经常批评别人 那就看看这个吧如果你经常批评别人 那就看看这个吧 If You Are Always Criticizing Your Partner, Read This 1.He/she will hide things from you 他对你有所隐瞒 Your partner may be tempted to keep secrets if you routinely spew negativity and criticism. If you are always criticizing your partner, think twice. Your partner may be taking on new risks/challenges without you knowing. You may be missing out on their growth, learning experiences, and the intimacy of a healthy relationship. 如果你经常传递的是消极的思想或经常批评别人，那么你的伴侣可能对你有所保留。如果你总是在批评别人，那就仔细想想吧。你的伴侣可能承受着你不知道的挑战。你也许会错过他们的成长，经验的习得，失去和他们的亲密关系。 2.He/she will secretly resent you 他们可能会偷偷的怨恨你 A build up of criticism can lead to closeted resentment. Resentment shows up when you most need your partneron your deathbed or co-signing on a loan. Resentment is worse than hate because, like the background music in an elevator, you dont always notice. Its there while everything else looks normal. Walking around with resentment is painful and makes others vulnerable to future hurt. 批评会引发背后的怨恨。当你最有需要的时候-在弥留之际或是有共同贷款的时候怨恨就会显现出来。怨恨比讨厌更严重因为就像电梯里面的音乐一样，你总没有在意。现在看来似乎一切都很正常。带着怨恨行走是痛苦的，也让别人以后更容易受伤。 3.He/she will not give you the space to make your own mistakes 他不会让你有犯错的机会 The overly criticized partner will admire you, perhaps too much. They will give you no room to mess up, as you become the light to their darkness. If you are always criticizing your partner, you inadvertently build your own jail. 被批评太多的伴侣会羡慕你，也许是很羡慕。他们不会给你机会去把事情搞砸，因为你成了他们黑暗中的一束光亮。如果你总是在批评你的伴侣，你无意中就给自己建起了一个监狱。 4. He/she may seek validation online or elsewhere 她可能会在网上或者其他地方寻找价值 A partner who is overly criticized needs an outlet. It can be as innocent as reading a book alone or more risky like venting to someone who is emotionally available, caring and compassionate. Leaving the door open to this can create dire consequences that can lead to the end of your relationship. 一个过多的被批评的人需要发泄。可能就是像独自看书一样简单，更可能是找那种愿意给予他情感上的安慰、关心、同情的人的帮助。敞开了一扇这样的大门可能会产生结束你们之间感情的可怕后果。 6.He/she will see you as a burden 他可能会将你视为一种负担 Daily life is enough of a hassle. If your partner overly criticizes you, you may see them as a drag, a burden, and a problem. Your overly criticized partner may want to stay with you, but they simply cannot handle doing the work. 平常的生活就足够麻烦。如果你的伴侣对你批评太多，你可能就会视其为一种拖累，一种负担，一个问题。经常批评你的伴侣可能是想和你待在一起，但他们只是没能处理好这点。