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主要看气质!如何成为一个优雅的女人主要看气质！如何成为一个优雅的女人 来源：有道原创 英文学以致用，领略语言之美。有道词典，不只是查单词，还带你看天下。 In the olden days, it might be a norm to associate aristocratic women with class. This isnt true anymore in our present time, especially in an information-rich and meritocratic society that we live in right now. Its no longer about the social status; anyone can become a woman of class these days. 在过去，或许人们总是习惯将贵族女性与优雅联系在一起。这在我们现在这个年代已经不再是真的了，尤其是在我们如今所处的这样一个资讯丰富，精英主导的社会。优雅不再与社会地位有关，如今任何人都可以成为一个优雅的女人。 What Im going to share are the new rules of how you can become a true woman of class. Even if a lady belongs to the upper echelons, she will be disqualified if she dont observe the following 7 rules: 我将要分享一些关于如何才能成为一个真正的优雅女人的新法则。一个女人即便是身居上流社会，如果她没能注意到以下7点，她将不会被视为合格的优雅女人。 Rule 1 ：Good Mannerism 法则一：举止得体 A classy woman is always well-mannered. She greets people in a friendly manner; shes generous with her smiles and is always ready to say sorry, please, thank-you and welcome at the appropriate time. Being loud and foul mouth are top taboos. 一个优雅的女人始终举止得体。她亲切地与人们问好；她笑容迷人，而且随时做好准备，在合适的时候说“对不起”，“请”，“谢谢你”还有“欢迎”。大嗓门和胡乱讲话都是大忌。 The moment where a woman utters expletives or talks like a public nuisance is where she is declaring to the whole world that she is a disaster. The key here is to avoid being rude and inconsiderate to others. 当一个女人爆粗口，或是讲话讨人嫌时，她正在向全世界宣布她就是一个灾难。这里最重要的是要避免粗鲁以及不考虑他人的感受。 Rule 2： Think Before Speaking 法则二：三思而后言 A classy woman is certainly not one who babbles non-stop and let loose her tongue without any self-restrain. Gossiping and bitching about others are something that she dont participate. 一个优雅的女人一定不是那个叽叽喳喳，毫不克制，胡言乱语的人。她们从不会参与散布谣言和讲别人闲话这种事。 I know we women like to whine and complain at times, but there is a difference between sharing our problems and frustrations with others vs. maliciously talking about people behind their backs. While the former can be a bonding activity between women, the latter is often an act of putting others down to indirectly make ourselves feel better. 我知道我们女人时不时地爱发发牢骚，抱怨两句，但是与他人分享我们的问题和烦恼与恶意地在背后说别人坏话是不同的。前者可以成为一种在女性之间建立亲密关系的举动，后者则常常是一种通过贬低他人而使自己间接地感觉好受些的行为。 This applies to arguments too. While a classy woman has a right to have her own opinions and is free to express them, she also knows when to walk away from one if the argument turns heated. 这一点也适用于争论。一个优雅的女性拥有秉持她们自己的观点的权利，同时也也会自由得表达观点，她也知道当争论升温时，应当在何时避开对方。 She does not need to win an argument just to prove her point. It doesnt mean she accepts defeat, she is simply a gracious lady by choosing to end the discussion instead of letting anger turn her into an ugly monster like her counterpart. 她不需要为了证明她的观点而辩赢对方。这并不意味着她甘拜下风，而只是因为她是个优雅的女性，从而选择了停止争吵，而不是向她的对手一样，让怒火把自己搞得面目狰狞。 Remember, a classy woman is mindful of what she speaks and never loses her cool in public. 请谨记，一个优雅的女性出言谨慎，而且她从不会在大庭广众之下做出有失风度之事。 Rule 3： Good Social Etiquette 法则三：良好的社交礼仪 Theres a reason why deportment classes are always in demand, and thats because women want to learn how to carry themselves well in public by the way they walk, in their posture etc. 对于仪态培训班的欢迎是有原因的，这是因为女士们想要学习如何通过她们在公共场合走路的方式和身姿等来展现自己美好的一面。 There are many aspects to what constitute good social etiquette, but the basics always include sitting upright and not slouching, not propping your leg up on the other like a man, talking when theres still food in your mouth, eating with mouth opened, yawning with mouth wide opened and uncovered. 良好的社交礼仪由许多方面构成，但最基本的往往包括坐姿端正而不是弯腰驼背，不要像个男人一样得翘着二郎腿，在嘴里有东西时讲话，张着嘴吃东西，以及打哈欠时大张着嘴而毫不遮掩。 When talking to people, always look straight into the persons eyes. Shifty eyes are a sign of disrespect. A woman of class is also mindful of putting her mobile phone aside and not fiddling with it while in the middle of a conversation. She knows that attending to her phone while talking to someone shows that she is not respecting the other persons time. 当和他人交谈时，要始终看着他人的眼睛。目光游离闪烁是一种不尊重人的表现。一个有教养的女性总会贴心地把她的手机放在一旁，而不是在谈话时一直摆弄它。她知道当和别人交谈时查看手机是对他人的时间的不尊重。 Good hygiene is also part of her lifestyle. This means no wiping of nose with her sleeves, no body odors, no burping out loud in public, or worst still, spitting and nose-digging in public (eeww!). If you have to do any of these, be sure to do it in private and save yourself from the damage. 保持整洁也是她的一种生活方式。这就是说不拿她的袖子擦鼻子，没有体味，不在公共场合大声得打嗝，或者更糟的是，在公众场合吐痰和挖鼻孔。如果你不得不做这里面的任何一个，务必要在私下里做，以免自毁形象。 Rule 4：Modesty Is a Good Virtue 法则4：谦虚是一个美好的品质 Being modest is about being to down-to-earth and humble. This means we will not expect diva-like antics, boastfulness and haughtiness coming from a classy lady. She accepts compliments with sincere gratitude, treats everyone with respect and sees no need to display power over anyone. 谦和就是要接地气而且谦逊。这也就意味着我们不期望一个优雅的女性会故作姿态，自吹自擂以及傲慢自大。她会真诚地感激并接受赞美，对所有人都以礼相待，并且她认为对任何人表现得盛气临人都是没有必要的。 This also applies to her dressing. She dresses not to impress, but to express. She knows her body well enough to dress in a way that enhances her beauty. Something that will hide her flaws, fits her perfectly yet suits her style. 这一点也适用于她的衣着。她的着装不为哗众取宠，而为了表达自我。她很了解她自己的身材，知道应该如何穿着会令她更加动人。有些东西既能够帮她掩盖缺点，还十分合体，且符合她的风格。 Flamboyant dressing, over-the-top look, showing of too much skin and cleavage is also almost a no-no. It doesnt mean she cannot show her nice skin at all. If she does, the purpose is always to enhance and not to attract attention, so it must be done appropriately and in good taste. 艳俗的着装，夸张的妆容还有袒胸露乳是绝对不可以的。这并不是说她完全不能露出她美好的肌肤。如果她这么穿，目的则始终是为了增添美感，而不是吸引别人的眼球，因此露就要露得恰当有品味。 A classy woman is a big fan of subtlety; she is confident enough to know that she doesnt need to dress loudly or be seen in the latest trends all the time to make a statement. 优雅的女性总是低调从容；她有足够的自信，知道自己不需要为了证明自己而打扮得花枝招展或是时时紧跟最新潮流。 Rule 5 ：Authenticity 法则5：真实 A classy woman is free to be herself. She laughs heartily when shes joyful, cry when shes sad, and empathize with others who are going through pain and dances when she feels like it. 一个优雅的女人勇于做她自己。 她开心时会大笑，难过时哭泣，想跳舞时就跳舞，而且还会向正在经受痛苦的人们表达同情。 Shes non-pretentious, knows how to enjoy herself and embraces life with a positive outlook. A lady with no display of emotions will come across as rigid and cold, which is not what a classy woman is about. 她不会自命不凡，她知道如何以积极的心态拥抱并享受生活。一个从不表达情绪的女人看起来刻板而冷漠，而优雅的女性并不是这样的。 Rule 6： Putting Best Face Forward 法则六： 展现最美好的一面 Stepping out of the house with a bare-face is a rarity for a classy woman. Unless she has perfect, flawless and even-toned skin, otherwise there will always be some makeup done to cover up their flaws. I am not saying that she has to spend hours putting on full makeup all the time. 优雅的女人很少会素面朝天得出门。除非她的皮肤完美无瑕，肤色均匀，否则总会化点妆来遮盖瑕疵。但我并不是说她需要每次都化几个小时化上全套妆容。 Its usually about hiding the dark circles, toning down the puffy eyes, putting some blusher and a dab of lipstick before stepping out of the house. It can even be a simple barely-there light makeup for a casual walk in the park. The key is to look bright and healthy, not pale, tired and sickly. 在出门前，通常要遮一下黑眼圈，让眼睛不那么浮肿，上一点腮红再涂点口红。可以是为去公园散散步而淡淡地上点裸妆。关键的是要看起来有精神，而不是面色苍白，有气无力还病怏怏的。 Rule 7： Confidence 法则七：自信 This has been mentioned above, but its needs to be emphasized as a rule because it is a very important thing. It is what sets a classy woman apart from a showy woman. Confidence is the foundational block, without this it is almost impossible to live as a true classy woman. 这一点之前曾提到过，但是因为它非常的重要，需要将它作为一条法则来强调。这一点将一个优雅的女性与艳俗的女人区别开来。自信是基石，没有了它就几乎没有可能成为一个真正的优雅女人。 Confidence means not having to play miss-nice all the time just to get others approval, not trying to manipulate or impress people, and certainly not putting others down and elevating oneself. It means being sure of your value and worth as a great woman no matter what people say. 自信意味着不用为了得到他人的认可而总是做个老好人，不试图控制或是取悦他人，当然更不能贬低他人，抬高自己。这意味着无论他人怎么说，都要坚持你自己的价值观并肯定你作为一个优秀女性的价值。 A classy woman knows how to embrace and bring out her femininity. She has her own thoughts and opinions and is not afraid to speak up at the right time, but also knows when is the appropriate time to step back and tone down. 一个优雅的女人知道如何保持并展示她的女性美。她拥有她自己的想法和意见，而且不会顾虑在合适的时候讲出来，但是她也知道什么时候应该后退一步，以柔克刚。 Final thoughts 最后的一些思考 As Im writing this post, I started to remember my days of working for a high-end jewelry store. There were a number of socialites among our clientele and I can relate how true they were as a woman of class. Here are some examples: 当我在写这篇文章时，我开始回忆起那些我在高端珠宝店工作的日子。在我们的客户里有一些社会上流人士，让我来谈谈她们是否是一个真正优雅的女人吧。这里有一些例子。 1) Socialite A loves to attend all the high society balls and she has to wear something different every time and will not be caught dead in wearing the same thing twice. 1）名媛A喜欢参加所有上流社会的舞会，而且她不得不每次都穿不同的衣服， 你绝对不会看见她同样的衣服穿两次。 2) Then theres socialite B who is always in rivalry with another socialite and always wants to outshine her by buying bigger and better things than her. 2）另外，有一个名媛B，她总是和另一个名媛对着干，并且总是想要买更大更好的东西好将对方给比下去。 3) Socialite C is one who is very well-groomed and turns heads in public, but she rarely smiles and treats service staff like they are non-existent. 3）名媛C打扮精致，引人注目，但是她不苟言笑，无视服务人员的存在。 4) Socialite D is one that I will always remember because of her genuineness. Shes loves chatting with the service staff and finding out more about them, and even shows her concern for some. Not only does she dress well, she is friendly and warm. 4）因为名媛D的真诚，我会一直记得她。她喜欢和服务生聊天从而更多地了解他们，她甚至还会对一些人表示关心。 她不仅衣着得体，而且还友善温暖。 5）Socialite E is well-known locally and is from a mega-rich family. She can look stunning in formal events or minimally stylish on casual days. Despite her fame and status, she is surprisingly friendly to service staff and has no diva-style requests. In fact, she is so easy to serve and she puts everyone at ease. 5）名媛E出身名贵，在当地很有名气。她既可以在正式的场合惊艳全场，还能在日常生活里保持最低限度的时尚感。尽管她有名气，有地位，她对待服务生友善地令人感到惊讶，而且她从不会提苛刻的要求。实际上，为她提供服务很容易，她令每个人都感到从容放松。 By now, Im sure you can tell who are ones with real class and who are the ones that dont. Classiness cannot be bought by money, it has to be cultivated. Sadly to say, some of these socialites havent quite got the point yet. 现在，我确信你能辨别出谁才是真正的优雅有档次，而谁不是了。优雅用金钱是买不到的，它需要培养。不幸的是，这些社会名流中的一些人还不明白这一点。 Being a true classy woman is not an easy thing. Im sure there are more rules to what defines a classy woman. The point is we can always learn how to improve our physical aspects easily, things like style, dressing and social etiquette. Those that involve characteristic changes are the hardest, because we need time and deliberate effort to change and to adopt new habits or thinking. 做一个优雅的女性并不是件简单的事情。我确信关于优雅女性的定义还涉及更多的方面。关键的是，我们能够很容易地就学会如何提升一些物质层面的内容，例如风格，衣着和社交礼仪。那些涉及品质的改变是最困难的，因为我们需要时间，并且做出努力去进行改变，去接受新的习惯或是思想。 If you are feeling dishearten, dont be fret, because I am also a work-in-progress and far from following some of the rules above. Remember, anything that requires cultivation takes time. I believe if we really aspire to be a classy woman, we can truly become one by being more mindful of these rules and making an effort to improve ourselves every day, even if its a small one. 如果你感到灰心，不要着急，因为我也还在努力当中，而且离以上的一些法则还差得很远。请记住，任何需要培养的东西都要花一些时间。我相信如果我们真的下决心要做一个优雅的女性，那么多加留心这些法则，努力让自己每天都有所进步，我们将会成为一个真正的优雅女人。 Do it often enough and it becomes our second nature. Dont stop practicing and soon youll be on your way to become a true classy lady before you even realized! 经常这样做会令它成为我们的习惯。不要止步，甚至在你意识到之前，你将很快成为一个真正优雅的女性。 So what are your thoughts on the definitions of a classy woman? Do you think it is achievable? Feel free to share your comment below. 你对优雅女人的定义有怎样的看法呢？你认为它有可能实现吗？请在下面分享你的评论吧。