stepstep英语听力入门2000第4册.doc

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Find professional help if physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse occurs.7 Fight to "understand," not to "win."Tape-script Here are a few general ideas I believe help make a marriage work:1. Go on dates with each other. Renew romantic feelings by spending special time together.2. Be as specific as you can when you complain, make a request, or offer praise.3. When stressed by fatigue or your own insecurities, imagine you and your partner in a foxhole, surrounded by danger. Instead of striking out at your partner, find a way to protect the partnership!4. When you feel "distant," talk about it with your partner.5. Be assured that partners in all marriages sometimes get tired, irritable, or distracted. Work together to understand each other.6. Respect each other. Leave if danger exists. Find professional help if physical, sexual, emotional, or verbal abuse occurs.7. Fight to "understand," not to "win."B. Tapescript: Having been married for more than 40 years, I can attest to the truth of the following statement: To excel in the art of domestic argument, one must master the art of 1osing.Modern psychologists are taken with the "win-win" solution. But in marriage, success resides more in "lose-lose" solutions. Out of these, both parties can win. For in the love configuration, losing gives a that always returns. The issues that people argue over most in marriage, such as how to spend money, often aren't the real ones. The key issue is: Who is going to be in control? When I was younger, my need to control arose out of fear, a lack of trust, insecurity. The day I finally realized I didn't need to control my wife - that, indeed, I ought not to control her, that I couldn't control her, and that if I tried to, I would destroy our marriage - was the day our marriage began. What is it we want most from a marriage? To love and be loved. To be happy and secure. To grow to discover. A love relationship is the garden in which we plant, cultivate and harvest the most precious of crops, our own self, and in which our spouse is provided the same rich soil in which to bloom. We cannot obtain what we want unless our partner also gets what he or she wants. So remember: if you want to feel loved and respected, give up control.1. These family members must be able to show that the man's family is at least of the same social class as the woman and that a certain amount of money exists to allow the marriage to go forward.2. Probably as far as I can see it, the reason is that they go into marriage or a relationship with a very romantic view of love which I think has been created by the pop songs, by all the love stories, by the Barbara Cartland novels, etc., that young people read.3. The other woman who., ended up ordering a pizza that had a bunch of stuff on it that I really liked and she. I ordered a pizza that had a bunch of stuff on it that she really liked, so we picked at each other's pizzas all night and we realized that we were . sort of had an ideal relationship, so that we could order really any pizza on the menu and., we'd both be happy.Part II All you need is love ?Criteria 1. Having similar social backgrounds.Criteria 2. Having the same race or same ethnic background.Criteria 3. Having the same religion.1. Why does the speaker say that some of the past practices related to marriage customs are weakening? Japan / 9.2% / arranged marriages2. Why does the speaker say that the races are still largely separate in marriage in the U. S. ? 3% / between blacks and whitesA. Tape-script. Many people in Western cultures choose their own wives and husbands. In many other cultures, spouses are often chosen by the parents. In China and Japan before this century (20th century), upper-class marriages were arranged by the older males. In many cultures in the Middle East, Asia, and pre-industrial Europe, the man's family negotiated a "bride price" with the women's family; the man's family was expected to pay it. In Hindu India, the bride's family paid a "groom's price" to the family of the man. These customs are weakening; for instance, only 9.2 percent of Japanese marriages are now arranged. What are the criteria for choosing mates? Most marriages -whether arranged by families or occurring from personal attraction or love - are based on similar social backgrounds. In other words, the man and the woman come from the same social class (or else a class that is only slightly higher or lightly lower). Among many people in Egypt, key members of the man's family must go to the family of the woman and propose marriage. These family members must be able to show that the man's family is at least of the same social class as the woman and that a certain amount of money exists to allow the marriage to go forward. Having the same race or the same ethnic background is the second main criterion for marriage throughout the world. In the U. S., where there are many different races, only 3 percent of all marriages are between blacks and whites, meaning that the races are still largely separate in marriage. In many countries, marriage is also based on the woman and man having the same religion; this is a third common criterion for choosing a mate. In cultures in which religion is a very strong value, marriages would often not take place if there were religious differences.1. Unfortunately, perhaps in the initial stages it's the physical appearance that attracts.2. In fact it shouldn't be what somebody looks like that is important. You should be able to look beyond the physical appearance and see what sort of a person he or she is.3. In pop songs and magazines and newspapers and so on, the idea of falling in love is always emphasized. - In fact I think we can probably lay the blame for the high percentage of divorces.4. I think you have to differentiate between falling in love with somebody, which I see as more superficial, and loving somebody, which I see as a deeper emotion and one that perhaps lasts.B. Tapescript:A. What do you think it is that attracts people to each other, that makes people want to be together?B: I think that perhaps unfortunately in the initial stages it's the physical appearance that attracts. I think unless you find somebody attractive, unless there's something about them -it could only perhaps be the way they smile or they laugh, or a twinkle in their eye, or the way a curl falls over their forehead. But something like that has to make you interested enough to find out more about that person, unless that's there I think you just don't bother. So initially physical attraction I think is all-important.A: Why do you say "unfortunately"?B: Because in fact it shouldn't be what somebody looks like that is important. You should be able to look beyond the physical appearance and see what sort of a person he or she is, whether they're selfish or selfless, whether :they're kind, caring. But I think initially you're not bothered with that. That comes perhaps later.A: In pop songs and magazines and newspapers and so on, the idea of falling in love is always emphasized, so people have this idea that you have to fall in love. Do you think this is misleading for people? Do you think people expect something that in fact doesn't exist?B: Yes I do, in fact I think we can probably lay the blame for the high percentage of divorces - it's a third I think now, isn't it? I think one in three people get divorced. Probably as far as I can see it, the reason is that they go into marriage or a relationship with a very romantic view of love which I think has been created by the pop songs, by all the love stories, by the Barbara Cartland novels, etc., that young people read. Really, you meet someone, you fall in love, and that's it, it's the beginning, they live happily ever after. And I think that's the problem, because people just expect that, and it's not like that.A. So what is it, do you think, that really sustains a relationship, that keeps a relationship going?B: Well, I think you have to differentiate between falling in love with somebody, which I see as more superficial, and loving somebody, which I see as a deeper emotion and one that perhaps lasts. Falling in love is superficial attraction, being attracted to somebody physically, having fun together, whereas loving somebody I think is an emotion that grows, it comes with shared experiences, perhaps enjoying doing the same things together, shared hobbies, shared interests, suffering together as well, going through the bad times, helping each other, supporting each other. I think all that needs time to grow, and I'd call that love, and I think that's what makes a relationship, last.C. Summary For years men and women have been getting married. When a man and a woman get married, it is one of the biggest decisions they will make in life. A man may select a woman because he, in his own eyes, sees her as the "just-right" wife for him. Every man has his own definition of what the "just-right" wife is. For instance, the millionaire man and the poor man both may define their "just-right" wife according to her physical qualities but use different words. Although some men define the "just-right' wife by her physical qualities, other men describe their "just-right" wife by her athletic qualities. Both the outdoors man and the inside sportsman may define their "just-right" wife by her sports qualities but in two different atmospheres. Men from all nationalities also have their definitions of the "just-right" wife. But the Italian man's definition is different from the French man's. And similarly, the German man's definition is different from the Spanish man's.Tapescript: For years men and women have been getting married. They say their wedding vows which bring them together as one. They promise to love and cherish each other until death do them part. When a man and a woman get married, it is one of the biggest decisions they will make in life. A man may select a woman because he, in his own eyes, sees her as the "just-right" wife for him. Every man has his own definition of what the "just-right" wife is. For instance, the millionaire man and the poor man both may define their "just-right" wife according to her physical qualities. A millionaire may describe his "just-right" wife as charming, beautiful, sexy, intelligent, and well developed. On the other hand, a poor man may define his "just-right" wife as pleasing, attractive, desirable, knowledgeable, and shapely. Both men describe their "just-right" wife by the same physical qualities but use different words. Although some men define the "just-right" wife by her physical qualities, other men describe their "just-right" wife by her athletic qualities. For example, the outdoors man may define his "just-right' wife as a woman who loves to fish, to camp, to hunt, and to water ski, whereas the inside sportsman may define his "just-right" wife as a woman who enjoys watching football, basketball, baseball, and wrestling. Both of these men defined their "just-right" wife by her sports qualities but in two different atmospheres. Men from all nationalities also have their definition of the "just-right" wife. For example, the Italian man describes his woman as a woman who stands six feet one inch tall with blonde hair and blue eyes, and who is well developed in the upper portion of her body. On the other hand,' the French man may describe his ideal woman as a woman who stands only five feet three inches with brown hair and green eyes, and who is moderately built. Other nationalities, such as the German man and the Spanish man, may define their "just-right" wife as a woman with style. The German man may describe his "just-right" wife as a woman who likes to drive expensive sports cars, a woman who visits a different foreign country every month and wears only the most expensive designer clothing. But the Spanish man may define his "just-right" wife as a woman who enjoys giving dinner parties every weekend, wearing a lot of jewelry, and drinking expensive wines.Part III First meetingsA. 1. How easy is it in your city for young men and women to meet and spend time alone together?2. At what age do young men and women usually begin to date with each other?3. At what age is it customary for people to get married and how 'long do engagements last?4. What do you think of the "boy-meets-girl" custom?5. What do you think of the arranged marriages?B. Where did he / she first meet his / her partner? What's the most impressive thing?Kate a baseball diamond hair / funny / monologueKerry a wine bar pizzaCoralyn a fancy-dress party the man dressed as Cheshire CatJill outside a cinema coincidence/he'd also missed the filmCarole a boat / the river bank fell in river / he dived in and rescued herTapescript:Ka - Kate Ke - Kerry Co Coralyn J - Jill Ca - CaroleKa: I was on my way home from junior high and in order to get to my house you have to walk by this baseball diamond. And there was a game of baseball going on and it looked kind of interesting, so I stopped. There weren't very many people watching. And there was this guy and he wasn't really very good-looking, but he had frizzy hair and glasses and he was really funny. He did this kind of monologue thing, which was great. And I went home and I told my mother I was going to marry him after talking to him for half an hour. And when I got to high school, he was president of the student body and he asked me out and. we've got our picture in the yearbook together holding hands, and it's really nice.Ke: Well, I'd arranged to have a drink with a . friend of mine . a . a woman friend of mine who's a platonic friend of mine. And she. ?insisted on bringing this friend of hers which . who she said I'd like to meet and . I thought she was trying to fix us up